I can speak from experience (obviously) that sometimes, growing up as a female is bloomin’ tough! From a relatively young age we’re a raging source of hormones, AND I went to an all girls school for seven years, so I know what it’s like to practically live around all women and deal with some of the consequences! Aside from the obvious academic things, there’s a few things I’ll be teaching Ada as she grows up.
1. Social media isn’t REAL. Well, it is, in the terms that Twitter and Instagram are real things, but things online aren’t always what they seem. People pick and choose the best moments of their life and edit them to death, not many people share the unhealthy shit they ate for their tea or the blazing row they just had with their partner. It’s so easy to get sucked in to how people appear on Snapchat and end up with major green eye, it’s important to remember that things in the real world are sometimes so different.
2. Avoid getting sucked into drama, it’s just not worth it. Especially don’t ever pick sides in someone else’s argument; they’ll end up making up and you’ll be billy no mates.
3. Don’t feel like your worth depends on a boy. Throughout school it was particularly well known that I wasn’t really seen without a boy on my arm. They weren’t all throw-away relationships (a few were), some of them were serious, for my age anyway! I even got awarded “Most likely to have a boyfriend” when I was leaving school for sixth form, and they were right! I calculated that for a few years I was single 23 days in total, because I’d just move on and be with boys that I didn’t even really like just so I wasn’t ‘alone’. Which looking back on sixteen year old me is not only so silly but so sad.
4. Don’t pick your spots, and I’m sorry for the oily skin you’ll probably inherit, but look on the brightside; you’ll end up with less wrinkles eventually. Just ask your Grandma.
5. Find what makes you truly happy and go with it. Whether that’s education, full time work, being a Mum or travelling. Just be you.
6. Don’t be afraid of having a personal style. Even if you get picked on a bit at school, don’t ever feel like you should change yourself to fit in.
7. Eat your vegetables and drink your water.
8. Invest in your female friendships. It can appear sometimes that there are a lot of bitches out there, but if you keep looking you’ll find some incredible women that you can share everything with, feel truly comfortable with and love endlessly. Just keep looking.
9. You will never make yourself any greater by tearing others down.
10. Don’t let anyone ever tell you that you’re not capable of something because you’re a girl. You are capable of absolutely anything you put your mind to.